Resist the Urge to Splurge

It’s fun to buy things on impulse, but overdoing it could lead to disaster. here are 10 fail-proof ways to control your spending.

By asavari singh
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You walk into a department store to buy a pair of socks, but by the time you leave, you’re the proud owner of new stilettos, a pedicure kit, six shades of nail polish, a dustpan, a doll for your daughter, and an adorable teapot you saw on the way out and just had to have. Don’t get us wrong: we know life would be quite joyless without the occasional, completely unnecessary treat. But if your spending habits are eroding your bank balance and illing your home and closets with useless clutter, you may have a problem.

“We all buy things on impulse, but when it becomes a habit, it turns into a compulsion, something we find dificult to control,” says Dr Madhumati Singh, senior psychologist at the Samvedna Clinic, Delhi. “Many people use shopping the way others use drugs or alcohol: to feel better. Buying something gives them a quick boost. To sustain that ‘high’ they carry on overspending, but end up with more problems andregrets than before.” And it doesn’t matter how much money you have (the debt-ridden Michael Jackson is a case in point)—the more you get, the wilder your sprees will become. Fortunately, you can turn things around. Our everyday strategies will give you the tools to ight your urge to spend.

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The Green Signal

Every romantic relationship has, at some point, and in some way, been jolted by jealousy. Here’s how you can navigate that bumpy road.

by Asavari Singh
Illustrations Priya Kuriyan

Unless you’re a Zen master who levitates above the world on a cloud of serenity, you’ve felt it. That threatened, resentful, scared, insecure, and yes, crazy feeling that arises when you gaze into your partner’s eyes and discover he’s staring past you at a slinky haired sylph in a Gucci dress. Most of us are quite familiar with the kind of complex neurotic thought process this kind of simple incident can lead to—are you attractive enough? Is your mate absolutely comatose with boredom in your company? Is he fantasising about that horriic woman and her hideously overpriced dress while he holds poor mousy little you in his arms? You may even be on the receiving end, with a significant other who interprets your admiration of Hrithik Roshan as a sign of impending inidelity. It’s all quite maddening. Yet, jealousy is not necessarily an irrational response to a situation that you perceive as threatening. What should you do when you discover that your worst fears are true? Before we answer these questions, here are some rather surprising facts everyone needs to know about jealousy.

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Your kind of loving

The way you think and feel about love has a huge impact on the quality of your romantic relationships. Discover what makes you tick.

by Asavari Singh
Illustrations  Priya Kuriyan

For some, it’s dancing in the moonlight; for others, it’s epitomised by being able to be themselves, warts and all; still others think of it as a partnership, with contracts and clauses. Countless poems and ballads have asked the question: what is love? the answer, according to sociologist John alan Lee, depends on who is doing the loving. Based on research spanning several years, he argued that most people have one of six “love styles” (or a combination of them), which affects relationship satisfaction, intimacy, sex, commitment, and communication. since his 1973 book, “The Colours of Love”, was published, Lee’s work has continued to inspire researchers all over the world. Simply put, his typology holds water—even though love styles can change as you (or your relationship) do, your basic attitudes towards relationships stay fairly consistent.

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And Nothing But the Truth: Crime and Detective Magazine

I first came across this almost preternaturally insightful journal at the Jhansi railway station. I was making faces at a singularly hideous toddler when my eye suddenly caught a jumble of colourful headlines amid a newspaper vendor’s otherwise drab selection of titles. The words, splashed boldly near a picture of a darkly lipsticked woman with her chin held by a fiercely intent man (not clear whether she was about to receive a violent kiss or have root canal treatment), screamed for attention:
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