The Green Signal

Every romantic relationship has, at some point, and in some way, been jolted by jealousy. Here’s how you can navigate that bumpy road.

by Asavari Singh
Illustrations Priya Kuriyan

Unless you’re a Zen master who levitates above the world on a cloud of serenity, you’ve felt it. That threatened, resentful, scared, insecure, and yes, crazy feeling that arises when you gaze into your partner’s eyes and discover he’s staring past you at a slinky haired sylph in a Gucci dress. Most of us are quite familiar with the kind of complex neurotic thought process this kind of simple incident can lead to—are you attractive enough? Is your mate absolutely comatose with boredom in your company? Is he fantasising about that horriic woman and her hideously overpriced dress while he holds poor mousy little you in his arms? You may even be on the receiving end, with a significant other who interprets your admiration of Hrithik Roshan as a sign of impending inidelity. It’s all quite maddening. Yet, jealousy is not necessarily an irrational response to a situation that you perceive as threatening. What should you do when you discover that your worst fears are true? Before we answer these questions, here are some rather surprising facts everyone needs to know about jealousy.

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Your kind of loving

The way you think and feel about love has a huge impact on the quality of your romantic relationships. Discover what makes you tick.

by Asavari Singh
Illustrations  Priya Kuriyan

For some, it’s dancing in the moonlight; for others, it’s epitomised by being able to be themselves, warts and all; still others think of it as a partnership, with contracts and clauses. Countless poems and ballads have asked the question: what is love? the answer, according to sociologist John alan Lee, depends on who is doing the loving. Based on research spanning several years, he argued that most people have one of six “love styles” (or a combination of them), which affects relationship satisfaction, intimacy, sex, commitment, and communication. since his 1973 book, “The Colours of Love”, was published, Lee’s work has continued to inspire researchers all over the world. Simply put, his typology holds water—even though love styles can change as you (or your relationship) do, your basic attitudes towards relationships stay fairly consistent.

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